A Profound Way To Raise A Problem Child.
Oct 07, 2001 11:51 PDT
A PROFOUND WAY TO RAISE A PROBLEM CHILD.
Hardly will a day pass in a large city across the world
without violent incidents
being reported over the news about teenage children and their quest for
battle against one
another. Some teenagers believe violence is the best means to achieve
Violence is a worldwide phenomenon. It should be every
because its influence does not stop at one particular boundary. The
reasons for violence
in large cities, and around the world can be traced to various social
factors, and social
uncertainty. Social factors include a high drop out rate from school,
poverty, overcrowding living arrangements, tensions, quests to release
general feelings of hopelessness, a lack of social and recreational
services, and the
pursuit of personal prestige and status.
If you have a violent child that would not listen to you, no
matter how hard you try
¡K never mind, read on, there is a solution for every child in this
When children are not properly loved, the tendency that they
would search for
love is high. Sometimes they end up joining a gang because they want
recognition, a sense of belonging, discipline, love, revenge, and money.
fear, hatred, bigotry, poverty, disenfranchisement, and, the general
breakdown of social
values are all considered what motivate youngsters to join a street
The word ¡§gang¡¨ does not necessarily mean violence. It is
the responsibility of a
parent or guardian to make sure their children are not in a bad gang.
Some gang members are self-centered; their goals are either
absolute gain or
relative gain. The reason for the constant struggle among various gangs,
members is that some of them actually believe that each time their
they have actually lost something that would have been theirs.
Most teen members crave power and respect. Some drive-by
other acts of violence often follow an event they perceived as
disrespect. Many a time,
when a violent teen is out-numbered, he usually retreat, and departs the
area; but returns
with his colleagues to complete the confrontation, so as to preserve his
In some instances, when a child is constantly harassed, by
its peer group, he or she
becomes intimidated into a bad ¡¥gang¡¦ to stop the harassment.
It is also reasonable to infer that lack of social control,
couple with social
disorganization, and political uncertainty in some part of the globe
opportunity for some violent activities and behaviors.
Nonetheless, there is a solution for every child. Even when
all the listed
ways below fail; never give up on your child; there is yet a way to
knock off the
unpleasant vibration that usually causes their mood swing.
First, let us examine the identifying warning signs. The
helpful hint and signs to
watch for in order to determine if your teenager is involved in a
violent activities are:
„h If your child admits to participating in violent group activity.
„h If your child carries huge cash or material goods that can not be
„h If he or she exhibits strange behavior and if their breath smells
Since alcohol alone can not change a persons attitude, you might want to
know if your child is using drugs.
„h If you notice an unusual body injury; and your teen lies about how it
„h If your child engage in ¡¥name calling¡¦, cursing or abusive
„h If you observe a strange mark on their body or their belongings in
the form of a tattoo or symbol.
„h If your child engages in unusual body language and hand signals while
they interact with friends.
„h If you notice sudden disloyalty and insubordination
„h If your child suddenly becomes secretive.
„h If your child becomes a truant; where does he or she spend the school
„h Does your child make a violent threat when he or she does not have
his or her way; or, when angry.
„h If your child associates with problem children.
„h If your child enjoys intimidating others.
„h Observe if your child has feeling for other people or their rights.
„h If your child exercise severe mood or behavioral swings. Check if it
reflect in his or her writing projects.
„h If your child shows extra-ordinary interest in television shows that
are filled with the killing of humans.
„h If your child derives joy from music that expresses violence.
Violence as you know sometimes lead to bloodshed. Sometimes,
you see some
teenagers who have a promising future end up spending both their teenage
lives in jail. In other to avoid this, parents and guardians, need to
take control over their
Effective and worthy ways to solve teenage violence are:
„h Parents should be a good role model.
„h Make sure your teenager receives a good education by getting involved
in their school work, and activities.
„h Parents should point to the importance of school and good grades.
„h Spend time with their children, and help them develop self-control.
„h Let your children get involved in youth employment programs or a
work-study program; that way, they will be able to earn some money while
earning school credit.
„h This means of earning money might deter them from getting involved
with drug trafficking and other unethical and immoral means of earning
„h Set rules and regulations that they must obey.
„h Respect their feelings.
„h Listen attentively to your children when they express their concerns
to you without interrupting them while they speak.
„h Teach them how to deal cleverly with problems, and how to resolve
conflict peacefully without resulting in violence.
„h Encourage your children to participate in community programs in the
arts, sports etc.
„h Instruct them not to mingle with bad gangs or identify themselves
„h Advise your children to refrain from graffiti.
„h Teach them to communicate with others in a respectful tone and to
validate others concerns.
„h Reward them for good study habits and behavior.
„h Advise them not to carry any weapons of destruction.
„h Try not to buy them violent games or toys.
„h Teach them the impact of violence in the media, and its real-life
„h Parents should welcome community programs that are geared towards the
prevention of violence, such as anger management and conflict resolution
programs for both their children and themselves if needed.
„h Parents should monitor and supervise their children¡¦s use of the
internet and should use filtering software to restrict inappropriate
sites and materials.
„h Parents should try to know to an extent what their children¡¦s
friends are all about. If possible, network with their parents to
exchange information about them.
„h Parents should regularly ask their child¡¦s teacher at school how
they are coming along in classes.
If all of the above fail to point your child in the right
direction; your next surest
bet is to adopt what is known as CLEANSING to ward-off all the negative
To get a glimpse of what this ¡¥no-nonsense¡¦ remedy is all
about go to:
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You will uncover secret ways, and techniques to fix your child chronic
mood swing and intense violent behaviors.
Chief Robert Aim is a Philanthropist and a Sympathetic Undertaker.
You can reach
him at ¡K686 Nereid Avenue; suite 207, Bronx, New York, 10470.