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Balance Boosters!
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Dietta L. Stewart
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Oct 27, 2002 18:35 PST
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Balance Boosters
Volume 2:1 October 28, 2002
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***What’s Inside***
Notes from Dietta
Newly Featured Items
Feature Article
Further Reading
Helpful Hint
Website Updates
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Notes from Dietta
A reader sent me an encouraging note this week that came at just the
right time (thanks again). We all need encouraged on various occasions
no matter who we are. Sometimes a positive word can help us to make the
right choice, or keep us from giving up when we don’t think our efforts
are paying off.
I’m sure you have heard the saying, “what goes around comes around.”
Often we equate this with someone who has done another person wrong
getting paid back for what they have done. But, this also applies to
people who offer words of encouragement and try their best to help other
people at their times of need. These deeds come back around just when
we need them, and at times when we aren’t even expecting them.
So I would encourage you this week not to hold back praise or
encouragement from friends, family, or even acquaintances when it is in
your heart and power to give it. You never know what kind of an impact
your words may have on someone else’s life.
I have made several new additions to the Website this week. I am glad
to be making Balance magazine available through the Balance Boosters
Website. What better magazine to offer on a Website about balance? And,
for those of you who are like me who love homes that are decorated
beautifully but struggle with putting it all together, I am offering the
Decorating Bible. You can find out more about both of these items
below.
Thank you for subscribing to the Balance Boosters newsletter. I
appreciate you for coming back each week to learn more about balance.
Welcome to all the new subscribers. I hope you enjoy this issue and
many more to come.
Dietta
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Decorating a home or office can be overwhelming. There are so many
choices to make and so many options, how do we know which ones are
right? In this informative e-book you will learn how to make the right
decorating choices and learn to decorate with confidence.
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“You and I do not see things as they are. We see things as WE are” -Herb
Cohen
What Are YOU Making It Mean?
By: Helaine Iris © 2002
It all started with a perfectly innocent question from my husband.
“Honey, can we compare our calendars, I have some things I want to
schedule and I’d like your input?” Happily I agreed and pulled my chair
up to engage in the conversation. After looking at the fullness of my
husbands schedule and realizing he still had MORE he wanted to fit in, I
responded, “Hey, what about some quality weekend time for us?” With an
exasperated look he retorted, “what do you mean?” I could feel our
defense postures setting in as predictable as night and day. We launched
into an ever-escalating exchange. The phone rang interrupting our
conversation. I was called away to deal with a pressing matter.
Afterwards I began to think about the interaction with my husband and
wondered why I was so tweaked. Then it hit me. All he did was simply ask
me to look at the calendar with him! I was the one who made his request
mean he preferred everything else to spending time with me. With out
even being aware of it I started telling myself all kinds of stories
about what I thought he meant which made me upset. Unsurprisingly, I
soon realized the source of those thoughts: fear and lack.
Later, when we resumed the conversation I was able to share these new
thoughts. It was like hitting the refresh button on my computer. It felt
great to acknowledge my own “stuff” and hear his original intent for the
conversation. We as human beings are “meaning making machines”. It’s
what we do best. We make meaning out of everything. If you look at the
universe, unto itself, there is no inherent “meaning”. A tree is simply
a tree standing in the middle of a field. You fill in the rest, it’s
beautiful, or it’s diseased, it needs to be saved etc.
In fact, it’s our job as people to tell stories and create meaning. Here
are some common examples of how we create needless pain for ourselves. I
was talking with a client who was telling me about her boyfriend not
wanting to drive with her to pick up a friend at the airport. She made
it mean that he didn’t want the friend to come at all. Another client
was upset because her friend cancelled a lunch date without apparent
reason. She made it mean the friend didn’t like her. My friend flew into
a panic attack because his boss called him into the office in the middle
of the workday. He was convinced he was about to be fired.
What do you make things mean in your life? Do you automatically jump to
the “conclusion” that proves the worst about yourself?
Here are some tips for staying in the present moment when confronted
with a potentially “button pushing” situation.
1. When faced with an emotional reaction get in the habit of asking
yourself, “What am I making this mean”? Stop the freight train of your
thoughts and look for another option.
2. Connect with reality. Offer yourself the gift of truth. Is it true
that “X “ will happen? Can I really know what I’m perceiving and
concluding is the only possibility?
3. Consider shifting from a limited view of yourself. Focus on what’s
positive, larger and perhaps more true about you. Let go of the negative
self-talk. Once you eliminate the endless mind loops of fear and
self-doubt that come from second-guessing, from making meaning without
the facts you free up your energy. Can you imagine how this could
improve your relationships? How much more peaceful your world could be?
What would you rather be doing with your time? Personally, I’d rather
have that quality weekend time with my husband. It’s your life…imagine
the possibilities!
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Helaine Iris is a Certified Life Coach She works with individuals,
entrepreneurs, professionals, and leaders who want more out of life.
People, who want to lead successful, balanced lives filled with love,
passion and purpose. Are you ready to take a step that could change your
life? For a complimentary session visit her website
http://www.pathofpurpose.com or call her 603-357-8546 or email her
hela-@pathofpurpose.com ----- This article provided by: Articles for
Profit at: http://www.MakingProfit.com
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Further Reading
Organizing Your Craft and Sewing Supplies
Click here to read this article:
http://www.balanceboosters.com/organizing_your_craft_and_sewing.htm
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Helpful Hint
Make a list of things to do the night before so that when you get up in
the morning you are ready to go.
Website Updates
Writers Wanted
Have you read my book, The Balanced Woman: A Christian Woman’s Guide to
Balanced Living? If so, you can now write your own review and have it
posted on the Balance Boosters Website. Click here for more information
http://www.balanceboosters.com/book%20review%20page.htm
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Free Financial Advice
You may access a free financial tip each day at the Balance Boosters
Website. Click here for today’s tip
http://www.balanceboosters.com/finances.htm
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Reader’s Corner
I have added a page for reader’s comments that I receive. To read them
visit http://www.balanceboosters.com/Reader's%20Corner.htm
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HAVE A BLESSED WEEK!
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